A VISION AND PROMISE TO HIS SON Gregg Garvey and his son "Hobie"The night of Justin’s funeral and into the early morning hours of July 29th I couldn’t sleep so I got up and walked through the downtown of my hometown in New York State. I’d had this idea after the funeral that I just wanted to do more; I had to do something to honor Justin. I had first thought of trying to get the 57 miles of the Adirondack Northway that runs through Essex County, New York, named in honor of him. But I also was drawn downtown to the war memorial that lists my Dad’s name and the names of cousins and folks from town that have served in various wars through the years. As I walked around and looked I found there was room there between the two existing monuments. I had this vision in mind of a memorial I wanted to do personally for my son; I had this one image and I wanted to build it with my own hands in honor of Justin. So I walked through the whole town; it was probably a four hour walk. I just became more determined that that’s what I was going to do for next Memorial Day. I realized while I was up there in NY that week, after talking to the Essex County and state representatives, that it was going to be a daunting task to have that section of the interstate named for him and the timeframe didn’t work out. I wanted to do something for this Veterans’ Day to honor my son because people have the tendency to forget. Also, Justin’s great grandparents are still with us. My grandparents are in relatively in good health; Grandpa (Alton) is 99 and Grandma (Marie) is 93. I wanted it done so they can see it done in honor of their great grandson for this Veterans’ Day. On the way back from Florida my wife and I had written the names of sections of interstate that were named for various senators, purple heart memorial highways and overpasses that were named for various folks. It came to me that I might be able to get a bridge over the interstate named in Justin’s honor. I thought of a road that crosses the Adirondack Northway that is known locally up there in the Adirondacks as Garvey Mill Road (technically CR 12). So I made a few phone calls and it was relatively easy to get the bridge named in his honor because it was on the county level. We made plans to dedicate it on Veterans’ Day.
I had a
memorial service planned for Justin here in my hometown of Keystone
Heights, Florida, in August. It was two weeks after we got back. I was
sitting at home going through pictures to get them set up for the memorial
service and it was just emotionally draining. I broke down emotionally and
I kept thinking about this memorial I wanted to do; I wanted to do it
then, right now, and I didn’t have the time and couldn’t do it. I was
thinking it was a worthwhile goal to look forward to. I got to thinking
about how many other parents there were sitting there doing the exact same
thing that I was right now; feeling totally helpless and wanting to do
something but not knowing what to do. This feeling of helplessness was
just overwhelming. I thought of all the folks that lost their children in
this war and also just if they lost them in an automobile accident or
drowning or whatever. They lost a child and it’s just devastating. Well,
then it came to me as I was sitting here. I was holding a picture of
Justin and was looking at my flagpole out in front of the house. I had
this vision of the memorial keep reoccurring and as I sat there I thought,
“You know, the simplicity of this memorial, the basic design, I could put
one in the hometown of every hero we lost or will lose in this war.” As I
sat there it became more and more of a vision and I just looked at the
picture of Justin (his nickname was Hobie) and I said, "Hobie, we’ve got a
lot of work to do.” I had been thinking about what on earth I was going to
do for the rest of my life and that’s where I made the determination that
these memorials were what I was going to move forward on. Sometime about
mid-September I found out that there was a survivor (Sgt. Doug Norman) of
this ambush where my son and Jason Jordan were killed so I contacted him.
I spoke with him and it was a very emotional and very trying time but
there was some closure there as well. I received a letter from his dad,
Matt Norman, and we started corresponding back and forth and I shared my
vision with him of what I wanted to do. Before I knew it this vision had
pretty much taken on a life of its own. I also shared the vision with Tom
Weiskotten, a life long friend, and Allen Hill from Congressman Cliff
Stern’s office (my representative in Congress from Florida).
Doug
Norman, Sgt. Norman, wanted to reenlist at the bridge dedication ceremony
to honor Justin and fellow soldier Jason Jordan. He is doing a three-year
reenlistment. He’s been assigned to the Old Guard; this is the honor guard
unit at Arlington National Cemetery. He is doing this in honor of them
and I was overwhelmed and humbled and honored by that. It has been just
overwhelming to me. Within a month people not only saw the vision of these
memorials, they embraced it and have been unbelievably helpful, supportive
and inspirational. It has truly been a humbling experience. There are too
many people to name but with the spiritual strength I’ve drawn from God,
Justin and everybody involved and with their prayers this has been an
uplifting moment, no movement, I should say. I just have to say this is
how it all started; it was just a vision of a dad wanting to do something
to honor his son. Hopefully this will be spiritually uplifting and helpful
to all the other parents and family members out there. It’s a small token
for the sacrifices that they have made as well as their family members and
loved ones. I have to say it’s been a combination of the right people, the
right place, the right time, for the right cause and thank you all from
the bottom of my heart.
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